Haven't you heard that before? ''......talking with muck in your mouth''.........parents all around the world have said at least once I bet...to their child or children in their lifetime.Let us reflect on the meaning for a sec....;
to have muck in your mouth would mean something dirty? too much of something?
or addressing speech? words are unclear? Perhaps , not enough volume?
Either way, what you are trying to express is relayed confusing and muck being offensive..this applies as well. But the context of which I am using this phrase today has to do with husbands and wives {EX}....recently experiencing divorce..and its affects on the children when it is not a civil and friendly resolve of the relationship.
http://www.angriesout.com/kids4.htm
This is an excellent article.......for everyone involved and everyone who is going through a divorce with children. This is to inform parents of what may not be realized, but 'is' happening to your children.
Studies show according to, "HELPING YOUR CHILD SURVIVE A DIFFICULT DIVORCE,'' negative behaviors from parents after a divorce can cause more problems to a child then the divorce itself.
One issue that may cause problems is CONTROL. trying to control the person they are divorcing by demanding, yelling or saying bad things about your ex- in all aspects ,the child will be the one to have lost.
"Verbal abusers often have had an insecure childhood or the far extreme of being spoiled''...
their feelings of powerlessness is what starts the journey to dominate and control others'.
"Don't let your child be a witness to the anger caused by the divorce.' ''THIS IS A FORM OF CHILD ABUSE'''.....!!!!!
It will affect the child's self-esteem, permanently. The child is one half you and one half the other parent. If we bash And call names out loud to the other parent...this will cause "shame" in the half of the other parent the child is part of.
The side or half that is quick to 'point fingers' as to whom is to blame, generally, "is the half that bears a sense of guilt about how they have acted in the marriage or during the divorce." NOT taking responsibility for their own behavior and looking to their own motives.
WHO IS THE VERBAL ABUSER?.....
..."yelling, threatening, "you are wrong"....calling names "dumb" or "stupid" and cuss words that are easily replaced by the "G" rated terms.......all this is abuse. As well as, twisting things around, having to have the last word, picking fights, look for wrong in everything the other half does...GUESS WHAT?! THIS IS A VERBAL ABUSER!
Inappropriate behavior " is ego invested" to fight ' that you are right and also egotistical to believe the rules of kindness apply to others but they do not to you. '"
DENIAL OF YOUR IMMATURE BEHAVIOR ONLY PERPETUATES THE PROBLEM!
there is much more information to cover on this topic
to be cont......shortly!
